Tits Up!
For those of you familiar with The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, that was what Susie said to Midge every time before she went out on stage to perform; “tits up”. It’s about knowing who you are and confidently completely accepting yourself. And others will see it. It is the energy you will give off!
Self-acceptance is a key to successfully thriving in any life transition. Facing most life changes begin and are 80% between your ears! The rest is details. With self-acceptance comes a sense of being whole and integrated. And not being so concerned what others think. Able to move forward confidently with whatever changes you are dealing with.
When we’re self-accepting, we’re able to embrace all facets of ourselves—not just the positive, more “esteem-able” parts. Self-acceptance is unconditional, free of any qualification. We can recognize our weaknesses or limitations, but this awareness in no way interferes with our ability to fully accept ourselves.
A few benefits that happen with self-acceptance:
- Diminished fears and doubts
- Attract people who actually like you (new family)
- Able to remove others from your life who are non-accepting / non-supportive
- Less willing to compromise your needs to the wishes of others
- Achieving self-acceptance increases self-awareness and develops self-love
I believe once achieving a significant level of self-acceptance, you are less likely to look to others for approval or care what they think.
5 self-acceptance exercises
- Practice gratitude. Every day, write down three to five things you’re grateful for. …
- Reframe your negative thoughts. Negative beliefs are the voice of your inner critic. …
- Choose your support system. Make a list of the people you spend the most time with. …
- Meditate. …
- Embrace what makes you unique. Start by thinking of the things that make you special. …
- Let go of the things you can’t change. …
- Celebrate your accomplishments. …
Don’t forget to Forgive yourself. …
Wendy Cole Transition Mentor
I help people untangle their perplexing mindset around abuse, trauma, and difficult life transitions. And I help them shift their energy to embrace life’s changes, so they can do what they need to do, and confidently go forward.